Father’s Day is just around the corner. Some of us will spend the day honoring the man who poured his life into ours, while others will have to be content with their memories. Those of us who grew up during the late 50’s and 60’s will remember the fathers from family sitcoms, “Leave it to Beaver”, “Father Knows Best” and “Ozzie and Harriet” to name a few. Then there was Pa Ingalls on “Little House on the Prairie who was firm but very loving to his children. Each of them were wise and had sound advice for their children. However, that was TV and not real life.
Some fathers have been negligent, abusive, cold and aloof or totally absent from their children’s lives. Sometimes dads have had to make hard decisions about the care of their children due to circumstances beyond their control. Perhaps they had poor models in parenting themselves and struggle in raising their families. Whatever the case, it is not easy raising children.
One of my favorite movies is “Field of Dreams.” One of the plots involves the main character played by Kevin Costner coming to terms with his father. He remembers his father as being too busy to have ‘a catch’ with him. When his father arrives in the ‘field’, he sees his father as a young man before all the cares and responsibilities of adulthood had taken its toll on him. In the end, he is able to have ‘a catch’ with him.
I always cry because I would love to go back to see my dad before he became my father. I might understand him better if I could truly understand what he went through as a boy growing up during the depression. The moving around to different pieces of property due to increases in rent, or relocating because of the scarcity of jobs. His parents were in their thirties when they married and his only sibling was born with Down’s Syndrome and had other health problems. He began finding odd jobs to help the family income when he was 7 years old. How did all of these things affect his view of the world? He gave his own plans to stay close to his elderly parents and brother, so that when the time came he’d be able to take over his brother’s care.
We knew he loved us. But it was hard to show that love except by making sure we were cared for in material things. He never wanted us to need basic things like he’d had to go without in his childhood. His job was to provide, not have fun with us.
We all have a Father in Heaven. He, too, loves us. He wants the very best for us. He gave His only Son to die for us. He desires to have a deep relationship with us. He wants to have ‘a catch’ with us. Will you join Him in ‘a catch’ today?